How To Handle Your Puppy’s First Night At Home
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Your puppy’s first night at home. It’s definitely exciting…It’s definitely fun…Here are some things to think about before your puppy arrives at your home.
It’s been about a year (UPDATE: Yowzers! It’s been over 15 years now!) since I brought a 7-week-old puppy named Stetson home from Guide Dogs of America (GDA).
It made me think of our wonderful first meeting in Sylmar, CA, and also the countless nights without sleep for the following four weeks.
GDA does not leave you empty-handed after you pick up your puppy.
In fact, they give you a puppy manual on what to expect and what you should do during those first few days and nights at home. These steps aren’t only for guide dogs and can be followed by anyone bringing home a puppy for the first time.
Guide Dogs of America also sends you home with a “Puppy Go Home Kit” that includes some of the first things you’ll need for your new puppy including collars, leashes, dog food, etc.
Check out our new puppy checklist for all the items we think you need before bringing home your new puppy.
QUICK TIP: You probably won’t be able to get your hands on a guide dog puppy manual. A good alternative that we highly recommend and read before bringing home our first puppy, Linus is Puppies for Dummies.
When You First Get Your Puppy Home
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Everything’s New…Everything’s a First…
First things first…we are informed that up to this point your puppy has been with his mother and his littermates in a sterile environment.
It’s advised that your puppy’s first week at home should be a quiet one. The puppy should be allowed to explore and meet his new family.
You should now start teaching your puppy his name (amazing because now Stetson knows his name like the back of his paw).
When you first arrive home give your puppy a chance to relieve himself in an area you have designated for that purpose (Stetson’s designated spot was in the gravel area on my patio).
In case you need to brush up here’s a tutorial we wrote up on the basics of potty training your puppy.
Take your puppy out on a leash (without his bib on) — (GDA puppy’s in training are never allowed to “Get Busy” with their bib/jacket on) — and repeat “Get Busy” (Remember this may be the first time your puppy has heard these words).
Allow your puppy 10-15 minutes, if he hasn’t relieved, take him inside. Try again in 10 minutes.
If the puppy does relieve himself in the proper area, give him lots of praise. Then let him explore the house (remember to supervise – don’t let him out of your sight).
Afterward, you may take him inside, but remember to supervise the puppy; do not let him out of your sight. Talk to your puppy when it explores to make him feel more at home.
QUICK RECOMMENDATION: We recently started training our puppies to alert us when they have to go potty by using a potty training doorbell called the Smart Bell. It requires a little bit of training, but it’s a good alternative to your dog scratching up the backdoor.
Puppy’s First Night At Home
If you’ve raised a puppy before then you probably know this is where the real fun begins (sarcasm…this is actually when you learn that you do not get to sleep your first night home with a new puppy).
QUICK TIP: Check out this blog post if you want to know everything you should expect from your 8-week-old puppy.
The first few nights at home may be difficult for both you and your pup.
At night the puppy will feel lonely and will probably demonstrate this by whining (Oh, you betcha!).
These are a few things that you can do that might make the puppy feel at home.
- Your puppy’s sleeping quarters should be in a small crate. We use a MidWest Life Stages Double Door Crate which comes with a divider (this allows us to adjust the crate size) and put a blanket over it to make it seem cozier.
- Keep the crate in a draft-free area next to your bed. For approximately the first three weeks, if your puppy cries, take him out, on a leash to relieving area. After relieving put him back into his crate. Do not give him any treats or any playtime. Put him right back into his crate and he should go back to sleep.
- Under no circumstances take the puppy to bed with you. This will form a very undesirable habit. – trust me…it’s difficult to avoid doing when your puppy is whining all night, but it’s very important to leave him in his crate.
- Give the puppy a stuffed dog toy to snuggle with. – I was told to bring a plush dog toy with me to GDA when we met the litter and get each of Stetson’s littermate’s scent on the toy. Then when it was time to crate Stetson for the first night he could snuggle with the toy and smell the scent of his littermates.
QUICK TIP: Over the years we’ve tried many different plush toys for our puppy’s first night home. Our favorite and one we highly recommend is the Calmeroos Puppy Toy with heartbeat and heat pack. Our last puppy, Anna loved her Calmeroos Puppy Toy and it helped her sleep better her first night in her crate.
Puppy’s First Feeding
This will be your puppy’s first meal by himself. Once your puppy’s food (we feed our puppies and recommend Wellness Core Natural Grain Free Puppy Food) is prepared, you will start having your puppy sit and wait for his food.
Hold your puppy by his collar by slipping your thumb in his collar and set his food about two feet away. As soon as he stops wiggling, say the words “O.K.” and release your puppy.
This should be done at every meal throughout training.
My Experiences With My Puppy
At Stetson’s puppy kindergarten I was always reminded that every puppy is different. Even within a breed.
There are several people in our group who have raised 10 or more Labrador Retrievers in the Guide Dogs of America program and each one is different.
My experience with Stetson was very difficult in the early days and weeks. I had no problem with Stetson when I first got him home.
I already knew about the trials and tribulations of house training and crate training after raising my first rescue puppy, Linus.
Puppies tend to piddle about every 10 to 20 minutes. You have to watch them like a hawk or they will end up using your house as their personal restroom.
Stetson had some accidents here and there, but nothing out of the ordinary.
The agony came in the evening.
Stetson did NOT take to the crate!
He whined, howled, cried, and barked…probably made every noise he could possibly produce, but would not relax and go to sleep.
He did sleep once in a while (honestly I felt like a zombie for over a month).
During those first 4 weeks, the most sleep I got was approximately 6 hours, broken up 3 or 4 times a night by whining, howling, barking…you get the picture.
I was a wreck and I thought Stetson would never get used to his crate.
The only way I was able to get him to sleep was to talk to him for 5-10 minutes, telling him what a “good boy” he was when he wasn’t crying (if he did cry I would just keep silent until he stopped).
To try and quiet him down I’d either say “quiet” or “Shhh”.
I have two words for you – consistent and patient. After about 4 weeks of consistently sticking to my guns, not letting him out of his crate, and praising him when he was quiet Stetson suddenly stopped making noise in his crate.
He’d let me sleep through the night and I thought I’d reached bliss.
I’m constantly reminded that I need to be consistent with Stetson’s training and patient. In the long run, it pays off. Stetson has not barked, howled, or whined in months.
As a matter a fact I can only recall him barking one time in the past 1/2 year (he barked because he was trying to get my attention to go outside).
I actually think it’s kind of unusual that he doesn’t bark at all anymore, but I’m lucky to have more peace and quiet.
If you’re having trouble getting your puppy to quiet down in his crate at night then take a look at this article that includes 20 tips for helping your puppy get used to his crate.
FAQs – Puppy’s First Night Home
Where Should A Puppy Sleep The First Night?
New puppy owners often ask me where should a puppy sleep on the first night?
ANSWER: All of our puppies sleep in the crate on the first night. Why? Starting on day one we want our puppies to get used to sleeping in their crate. If we allow them to sleep elsewhere like our beds then we are reinforcing the behavior of sleeping on the bed. Therefore, trying to start them in the crate will be more difficult on day 2.
Also, I want them to get used to sleeping in their crate until they are potty trained and learn the appropriate rules in our house i.e. they won’t chew my socks, shoes, bed posts, baseboards, drywall, doors, etc…yes, my past puppies have all chewed all of these and more!
Should I Let My Puppy Cry The First Night
Hopefully, your puppy loves the crate and sleeps through the first night without a peep. Most likely he will wake up crying 2-4 times at night.
What happens when your puppy starts crying? Should you let your puppy cry the first night?
That question is more complicated than it seems. The answer is YES and NO. I’m going to give you a couple of most likely scenarios.
First, as mentioned earlier we crate train our puppies. If at the end of the night our puppies start crying in the crate they will most likely settle down after about 5-10 minutes of whining. Therefore, yes we let our puppies cry.
Second, if our puppy wakes up in the middle of the night and starts crying we take him immediately to his potty spot. After he goes potty we take him straight back to his crate to go back to sleep. This generally happens 2-4 times a night.
Those are the two most likely crying scenarios with your puppy. However, there are an infinite number of other possibilities for puppies crying in the crate on the first night. If you’re having issues please leave us a comment.
Should I Leave My Puppy Alone On The First Night?
It’s your puppy’s first night away from his littermates. It’s his first night in a new home. It’s the first night away from the only family he’s known. It’s possibly the first night away from his mama.
Should you leave your puppy alone on the first night?
The short answer is no, please don’t leave your puppy alone on his first night. The long answer is we set up our puppy’s crate next to our bed (where you’d normally find a nightstand). I sleep about a foot away from my puppy in my own bed, puppy in his crate.
If I feel like my puppy is experiencing some anxiety on his first nights home I will also sometimes sleep on the floor for a few nights and slowly start to migrate back to my bed.
How Long Will A Puppy Cry The First Night?
This is the question I fear when I bring home a puppy. The answer is it depends, every puppy is different.
We’ve had puppies sleep through the first night for 8 straight hours with no crying.
We’ve had other puppies cry the majority of the first night with only short respites (I’m looking at your Stetson).
However, you probably want to know what I consider normal for how long a puppy will cry at night?
ANSWER: the average puppy will cry 5-10 minutes in his crate before you go to bed. At which point he will likely settle down and go to sleep. Over the next 8 hours, most puppies will wake up 2-4 times and will need to go outside and potty. When you get back from the potty break most puppies will cry for another 5-10 minutes before they go back to sleep. After about 8 hours of sleep, your puppy will want to wake up and eat breakfast.
Can My Puppy Sleep With Me The First Night?
As I mentioned earlier, all of my puppies sleep in their crate on the first night.
Why don’t I allow my puppies to sleep in bed with me?
I want my puppies to get used to the crate and I DON’T want any potty accidents in my bed. This calls for a story:
Many years ago, I talked to a friend who allowed her puppy to sleep in her bed. She told me the puppy pooped and pee’d in the bed. She cleaned up the mess but could still smell poop. Later she realized she rolled over poop and it got stuck to the back of her PJ’s…Ewww…
That story has stuck in my head for years and now I’m adamant about no puppies in the bed.
Your Puppy’s First Night – Quick Recap
- Make sure you have all the essential items you need for your puppy. Check out our New Puppy Checklist.
- Get a good book on raising and training a puppy like Puppies for Dummies.
- Your puppy’s first few days should be a quiet one. Let him get comfortable in his new environment.
- Start training your puppy immediately with basics like potty training, name, and crate.
- Always supervise your puppy.
- Use a small crate near your bed. – We recommend the MidWest line of crates.
- Give your puppy a stuffed dog toy to snuggle with. – we highly recommend the Calmeroos Puppy Toy with heartbeat and heat pack.
- Puppy’s first feeding – have him wait before meals. – we give our puppies and recommend Wellness Core Puppy Formula.
- Be consistent, persistent, and patient when training your puppy.
Conclusion: Rest Up Before You Get Your Puppy
Get lots of rest before getting your puppy. The first night with a puppy is often a sleepless night.
More often than not you’ll at the very least have to wake up several times to take your puppy out to go potty.
On the other hand, if you get a homesick puppy then you might have to endure a night (possibly several nights) of barking, howling, crying, and yelping puppy.
Hopefully, you get the latter and are only disturbed a few times in your nightly slumber.
Good luck!
That’s it! Hopefully, now you’re prepared for the first night home with your puppy.
How did you do with your puppy’s first night at home?
Tell us your experiences in the comment section below.
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UPDATE: This post was originally published on January 30th, 2008. We made some updates and left some of the content the same. We’ve learned a lot over the years and it reflects in the new information.
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In the next couple of hours, I will be bring home my new Labador Retriever. And will be trainer her as a service dog. Part of her responsibility will be medical alert, so sleeping with me will be important. Should I allow her to sleep with me, right from the beginning or wait until she is a little bit older?
Congratulations on your new puppy! Our dogs sleep in the bed with us, but I don’t like letting them in bed until after they are potty trained and crate trained.
I am getting a new boxer puppy soon and I’m looking at what the best way to train it might be. Is it OK if it sleeps in my room? What is something to look out for if we need to train it in a certain way. Also Boxers are rambunctious little puppies so how can we get their mind on a different track.
All of our puppies sleep in our bedroom in a crate next to the bed (where the nightstand normally is). We clicker train our puppies and it works fine with any breed of dog. If you can take your puppy to a puppy kindergarten class. This will give your puppy a chance to socialize with other puppies and give you a chance to ask a certified professional trainer questions about your puppies training. Most puppies have a short attention span. Keep training sessions short and mix it up with play time. Good luck with your new puppy!
Hi! What do you mean by clicker train?
Clicker training is a training technique that allows you to train positively with your dog. The clicker is a marker that tells the dog exactly what behavior you are looking for. I’ll put together a more in depth post sometime in the future. For now check out clickertraining.com for more information.
Thank you for this post and it’s very helpful. We are a first time pet owner (well, this Sunday, we will be one). We are getting a Goberian, 9.5 weeks old. I have already bought most of the items, which are mentioned in your checklist. But I am clueless on what to do on the puppy’s first night. I have also ordered the book ‘Dummies for puppies’ and hoping that will help a bit.
We have a crate with divider and from the research, I believe we should be helping puppy get used to the crate from beginning. Should we be feeding puppy in the crate? I saw your tips on what if puppy doesn’t take it to the crate right away…hopefully, it works out with our pup. Anyway, I am patiently waiting but very nervous too; it feels like I am bringing a new baby home for the first time. I have two boys, who are beyond excited!
Any tips for 1st couple of nights?
Early congratulations on your new puppy! Every puppy is different. We brought home an 8 week old black Labrador Retriever 2 weeks ago. She was already fairly comfortable with the crate so on our first day we put her in the crate with the door open anytime she fell asleep. We gave her first meals in the crate with the door open as well. We also gave her some treats and a chew toy that she played with in the crate with the door open. On her first night when she fell alseep around 9pm we put her in the crate and she did fine. She woke up 5 time the first night, we took her straight to her potty spot, she pee’d and we took her straight back to the crate where she fell back asleep. It was a pretty good night although I didn’t get to sleep more than 3 consecutive hours. As I said it depends on your puppy. If your puppy is not taking to the crate very well then you might try a slower approach that allows your puppy to get used to the crate in smaller steps. To answer your question: yes you do want to introduce the crate to your puppy early. However, it will depend on your puppy how quick or slow you should introduce different the steps of crate training.
FYI, I’ve had puppies that I plopped in the crate on the first night and they slept a solid 8 hours without interruption. For me it’s like a dream especially since I’ve had others that have taken weeks and talked to friends who had puppies that took months to adjust to the crate. Good luck with your first night home!
We are getting our first golden retriever 8 week puppy next month. This will be our first dog ever. I understand that you should keep the puppy in the crate. But if the puppy doesn’t want to go in the crate at all in the night, what should we do?
Early congratulations on your new puppy! I’m putting together a guide that will have more information on how to slowly introduce your puppy to the crate. We also have this article that has tips on how to get your puppy to get used to the crate. Hopefully that helps. Good luck with your new puppy!
Hi, I recently got a bichon frise puppy who is going to be 8 weeks next week. He is crate trained and he has one section in his crate where he sleeps and eats and one where he relieves himself. I’ve moved the potty area outside, next to the crate to distinguish where he sleeps and goes potty. When do you recommend I start taking him outside for potty training as he’s very small and fragile right now. Also when I take him outside the crate occasionally he goes potty on the floor. Should I fully get him used to the idea of going potty next to the crate and then take that potty box outside where I would like him to go?
I’m trying to convince my family to get another dog, what should I do?
If I wanted to get another dog then I’d find out all the objections from every one in my family then find a solution to each objection.
Our family brought a puppy home yesterday for the first time ever. An 8 1/2 week Pomeranian. We started crate training last night and after a few whimpers she slept from about 11-5am. Our 14 year old son slept on the couch which is close to where her crate is to get her to her “get busy” spot at 5am she still has had some accidents. It’s pretty rainy and cold outside so we’re not sure if we should train her to go outside yet. She’s so little.
We’ve never had to deal with extreme cold although we did have to potty train Linus in the rain since it rained 2 weeks straight after the day we brought him home. If you think the weather is too extreme for your puppy then it might be a good idea to try potty training with puppy pads or a grass pad indoors.
I’m bringing a puppy home in a month. If he doesn’t immediately take to the crate, how should I go about getting him to sleep inside it on the first few nights? I understand that you should never force a puppy into the crate, so how is that possible for sleeping overnight, before he’s accustomed to it? Let him fall asleep elsewhere, then place him inside? Thanks so much.
Early congratulations on your new puppy. We do our best to give our puppies as many positive experiences with the crate as possible. First interactions are usually as you mentioned picking up the sleeping puppy and putting him in the crate, feedings in the crate, treats in the crate, favorite toys in the crate, stuffed KONGs in the crate. If he’s not taking to the crate right away early on you can try giving him a frozen stuffed KONG. You may also try luring him in with treats. Hopefully some or one of those suggestions help. Good luck with your puppy.
In those first few weeks home, if I have to do something like make dinner and can’t keep an eye on puppy, do I crate her? What if she’s not used to the crate yet?
If your puppy is used to the crate then yes, I would crate her. If not something we’ve done is just attach her leash to our belt buckle so our pup will stay close by or you can try a tie down that’s in the kitchen so you can still keep an eye on her. Here’s a post on umbilical cord training that you might find helpful.
My little sister moved home during this pandemic mess, and decided the family farm needed a new dog. She found and purchased a mostly Great Pyrenees mix, and tonight is his first night with us. My sister says she’s done her research on puppies and training but she was trying to have him sleep in a large storage bin in her room at my grandparents house. (Everything in both houses on the farm is carpeted, so she was trying to prevent messes.)
Of course the storage bin didn’t work, pup is an 8 week old Pyrenees and within a few minutes knocked it over… so he’s sleeping out on one of our porches. I arrived home at midnight, and he was stuck against the wall of the house, pinned behind some random things piled under the porch. No one bothered to puppy proof the porch, which is a repeat of two years ago when we had two large pups to raise. My family, honestly. (I’m a vet tech and the “animal person” of the family so anything related to animal care and training falls to me.) I pulled out a small bed the former two pups used, and my dog’s neglected stuffed animal toy to give him some doggy smells, moved his makeshift bed to a more desirable location facing the door that we use instead of the strangeness of the garden, and he quit crying at the door in less than ten minutes. So that’s something, thanks for the fuzzy stuffed animal tip!
Seeing as this little guy is a giant breed and I don’t imagine my family buying or using an enormous crate when he’s grown, and even if my sister moves to a larger city again, it’s very likely he will stay on the farm and never need to be crated or kenneled… is it worth it to crate train for the next few weeks?
Your situation is very different then mine, but I use the crate to also potty train my puppies and have found it easy to get them potty trained much quicker with the crate. However, the #1 reason why I’d recommend getting your puppy used to the crate is just in case you ever have to confine him in an emergency. When Linus got sick and had to spend the night at the vet’s office he had to stay in the crate. I was thankful knowing that he felt comfortable in the crate when he was sick. I would have felt very bad if he was sick and was having anxiety because he had never been crate trained.
Just had my husky puppies first night at home. You’re post really helped, thank you. We just had the crate in the spare room which is just across from our room.
Congratulations on your new puppy! Good luck with training!